I get a lot of questions about this blog these days so it seems wise to cover some of the basics. In journalistic terms we call ‘the who, what, when, where, and why,’ the five Ws.Continue reading “The Five Ws of Winging It”
In-house development professionals
They can help you to decide whether to use a coach or whether there is an alternative development approach e.g. executive development programme. They can also help you to think through your goals so that you are better prepared for meeting and choosing a coach.
Employee Assistance Programmes
These confidential employee assistance services provide professional and confidential support where situations at work or at home are making it difficult for you to cope or perform effectively.
Occupational Health Services
These professionals will see people quickly and confidentially, they are experienced in dealing with stress and illness at work.
Other development options
Coaching is a great approach to development where the development goal is particular to you and the means of achieving it is within your control. The assumption in coaching is that you have the basic knowledge, but need support to bring your learning effectively into your performance at work.
Where your development goal requires further knowledge, it may be more appropriate to seek training or learning through internal or external programmes.
Sometimes the development goal is dependent on team or relationship performance – where this is the case it may be more appropriate to work with a facilitator or Organisational Development consultant who can work with both you and the group / team members to achieve their potential.
The most effective coaching takes place when we are both clear about the change you are seeking. This may be straightforward, e.g.
- Demonstrating a particular leadership competence in the workplace
- Helping to create an effective personal plan for transition into a new role
- Preparing for a significant career event
- Guidance and support as you deal with a complex team situation
It may be that the purpose is less tangible and is around building your confidence and commitment e.g.
- Guiding you as you learn how to deal with complex or difficult political/relationship issues
- Coaching you to overcome a limiting behaviour that is impacting your performance and how you are perceived at work
- Supporting you as you resolve career and personal work-life conflicts.
Whatever the intention of the coaching, you should be able to articulate the outcomes of working with me in measurable goals. The goals may be fairly tangible and have measures attached, They may also be more behavioural where your goals describe what would do differently: What would you be doing, saying, hearing and feeling that would be different from how it is now?
Way of Working
I work in a number of ways and bring a wide range of professional skills and experiences. It is important for you to think about what you want and don’t want from the way we work together. Some questions you might ask are:
- What is your coaching approach?
- How long have you been coaching, and what kind of clients/situations do you normally undertake?
- Describe how you coach someone – how did you work with them, and what were the outcomes?
- What situations and issues don’t you undertake?
Executive Coaching is an effective way of providing focused, personal development for those seeking to build their competence as leaders and managers. Coaching should build your competence and confidence and support you in achieving your full potential. It all starts with a chat and a contract.
A contract is exchanged, after our first meeting to determine if we are a good fit, and prior to commencement of work. The contract will cover payment and invoicing arrangements, cancellation fees etc. We will also contract less formally each time we meet to agree the focus and scope of that meeting.
We will have one introductory session of around one hour before the commitment to the coaching contract is made.
The work you do with Wonky is confidential. However, it is important that we are able to assess the impact and effectiveness of the coaching so we both would be required to complete an assessment at the end of the coaching engagement.
Coaching requires two things more than anything else — that you find the right coach, and that you are ready and willing to be coached. The world is full of folks who think they would love to have a professional coach at their side. Sadly, a large portion of those, if they had such a coach, probably would not benefit much from the experience. With the huge array of different kinds of coaches out there it is hard enough to simply find one that clicks with you. But what is often the real challenge is being ready and willing to give what it takes to make such a relationship work. So while we encourage you to assess coaches to find one you feel might be a good fit, before you get started, ask yourself whether or not you are really ready to open up and take the journey. A good coach is not just a sympathetic ear. A good coach is also a guide and will challenge your perceptions, your behaviours. To do that, you will need to open up and be ready to embrace whatever comes out.
Who knows when it all started, this notion that there must be no sonic gaps in a life, that silence is not only not golden, but it is in fact awkward and therefore unseemly? We have even gone so far as to attach the word and notion of death to silence. We have turned our backs on quiet and embraced a never-ending wall of sound.Continue reading “A Deathly Quiet”
I found myself sat in a small, wooden chair within a good sized cage. Behind me, sat outside the cage were three dogs eyeing me intently. Inside the cage in front of me was small wooden box with an opening facing me. Through that opening, by the light of a bulb lit within, I could see pieces of newspapers spread like a kind of carpet on the floor. Resting in a heap to one side was a seething mass of puppies, making those funny chirping sounds that fat, contented puppies make. Then, from one side of the opening came a single puppy. He was about the length of my hand, unsteadyish on his feet still. His eyes were a beautiful shade of blue. He tumbled out of the box, regained his composure and walked over to me. He gently took the end of one of my shoe laces into his teeth and stepped back until he had successfully untied my shoe. He then walked back over between my feet, sat down, curled up, and went to sleep. This was my first encounter with my future brother, Cosmo.Continue reading “My Silent Brother, Cosmo”
It seems almost comical to think what used to rock our worlds. A first bicycle, a first kiss. Then the ante was raised to the first car, the first shag. The trend seemed irreversible. With every passing year the pains and pleasures became more intense. But anyone with a smart phone knows, this trend reverses.Continue reading “The Age of Nano Pleasure”
A death. A hideous diagnosis. A terrible injury. These and other blows from life’s hammer are devastating in the extreme. And many times we look at the human wreckage left in the wake of such experiences and we begin to believe that sometimes there are blows from which we simply cannot recover.Continue reading “What goes down must come up”
Loneliness outnumbers us. Loneliness outguns us. It is everywhere. It lurks in every shadow, just steps from us, like some phantom bankruptcy, ready to stain every happiness on to which we cling. Continue reading “One is the Loneliest Number”