Changing a flat while still driving the car sounds utterly bonkers, doesn’t it? And yet it is something many of us are doing right now. Let me explain by way of a story.
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Spotting Change In The Rear-View Mirror
question for me to answer since most of the examples I can remember were not life changing at that moment due to my lack of self awareness. In most cases it was years before I could connect the dots and trace a change back to one of these early moments. The story I am about to tell is one such moment.
A Bit More Choke and it Woulda Started…
I 'm quite confident I am not alone when I report that it is becoming difficult to get up to running temperature these days. I am going to blame it on my middling attempts to transition towards an effective, lockdown working rhythm. Like that old car that needs nursing every morning to coax it to life, so too is it with my working life. And from what I hear from friends and clients, I am certainly not alone.
Shoulda Gone to Specsavers
Seeking and executing solutions to problems seems an admirable leadership trait. Now imagine if you are such a leader. So why, despite all our skills and admirable intentions, do we so often end up not with admirable solutions, but unintentionally unhelpful consequences? And what if I were to tell you that it is likely that at least 80% of your employees suffer the same consequences in their pursuit of solutions? Yep, the odds are highly likely you are running an organisation teeming with people who are being handsomely paid to frequently fail. And why, when you spot unhelpful results, the changes you and your colleagues invoke also fail to deliver the results you seek?
COB: another TLA
Anyone who knows me, knows that there is little I like more than a good TLA, (Three-Letter Acronym). Today's candidate is C.O.B., or Chain of Behaviour. The COB is a simple framework for better understanding why we do the things we do. The COB, is made up of three links -- Cognition, emOtion, and Behaviour. Let's dive into this simple, yet powerful way of examining why we do the things we do.
Irreplaceable is an unspoken attribute we all wish to possess. We want to be so respected in our work role that we feel not only respected or cherished, but we also feel safe. There is something reassuring in knowing that no one on your team could possibly fill your shoes. It is a kind of job security leverage. But this situation can also be an anchor. You cannot possess the security of having no succession plan and be seen by those above you as an attractive candidate for a new role. You cannot have it both ways. Why? Because the upwardly mobile leader always prepares those who could follow him in his or her rise. Having a quality succession plan is one of the signs of a good leader.
Make the Change, or Be The Change
We've all see or heard the phrase, "be the change," but what does that really mean? On the face of it, the phrase may smack of some kind of new-age platitude commonly seen on inspirational lunch-room wall posters. I'm not sure myself what the anonymous authors meant, but to a change agent such as myself, it has obvious and relevant meaning for both me and my clients.
That Damned Pendulum
It has often been said that when things are going well we cannot imagine a time when things will go badly. Likewise, when things are going badly, we cannot imagine them going well again. I think we all have seen evidence of this. How many people, when times are good, stack away reserves, saving for … Continue reading That Damned Pendulum
How to Avoid DIY and Anything Else
So now you have some idea of what I mean by life's hammer. More than likely you have already experienced it. To reiterate, it is not just what we might call catastrophic loss (but it could be). It could be any setback in life. But what really defines life's hammer is how you react to the setback. So, it's not the setback itself that gives the hammer its power of impact -- it is how we perceive the setback that gives it the power. let me explain...