As a change-agent coach, it is common for me to come across leaders who report being told they over-react to situations. When asked if they believe the accusation, few admit they do. At first, that is. But when pressed, most admit that they do, but don't see that as a problem. In fact, many say it helps them temper their otherwise possibly more rash impulses. This rationalisation, and what it masks is something that deserves closer scrutiny.
That Damned Pendulum
It has often been said that when things are going well we cannot imagine a time when things will go badly. Likewise, when things are going badly, we cannot imagine them going well again. I think we all have seen evidence of this. How many people, when times are good, stack away reserves, saving for … Continue reading That Damned Pendulum
How to Avoid DIY and Anything Else
So now you have some idea of what I mean by life's hammer. More than likely you have already experienced it. To reiterate, it is not just what we might call catastrophic loss (but it could be). It could be any setback in life. But what really defines life's hammer is how you react to the setback. So, it's not the setback itself that gives the hammer its power of impact -- it is how we perceive the setback that gives it the power. let me explain...
Other Development Options
In-house development professionals They can help you to decide whether to use a coach or whether there is an alternative development approach e.g. executive development programme. They can also help you to think through your goals so that you are better prepared for meeting and choosing a coach. Employee Assistance Programmes These confidential employee assistance … Continue reading Other Development Options
Clear Purpose The most effective coaching takes place when we are both clear about the change you are seeking. This may be straightforward, e.g. Demonstrating a particular leadership competence in the workplaceHelping to create an effective personal plan for transition into a new rolePreparing for a significant career eventGuidance and support as you deal with … Continue reading Pre-Coaching Considerations
How Do We Start Coaching?
Executive Coaching is an effective way of providing focused, personal development for those seeking to build their competence as leaders and managers. Coaching should build your competence and confidence and support you in achieving your full potential. It all starts with a chat and a contract. The contract A contract is exchanged, after our first … Continue reading How Do We Start Coaching?
Are You Ready?
Coaching requires two things more than anything else -- that you find the right coach, and that you are ready and willing to be coached. The world is full of folks who think they would love to have a professional coach at their side. Sadly, a large portion of those, if they had such a … Continue reading Are You Ready?
The Five Ws
I get a lot of questions about this blog these days so it seems wise to cover some of the basics. In journalistic terms we call 'the who, what, when, where, and why,' the five Ws.
Pamela Druckerman wrote a fantastic piece in the New York Times entitled "What You Learn In Your Forties." She imparts plenty of bullet points of wisdom in the article with one in particular that jumps out. "Everyone is winging it, some just do it more confidently." This is in essence the starting premise of this site. No one is perfect, there are no … Continue reading Winging what?